Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Wondering...

I had a "falling out" with a good friend yesterday. Actually, it was more of a "this is why you suck" session where I was the focus. I sat and got to hear how I've changed since going through a broken engagement, the back to back deaths of my father and grandmother, and the stunting of my career.

Hmmmm...

I was proud of myself for not getting defensive. I sat and took it, absorbed it, and calmly presented my rebuttle this morning. Normally, I'm one to say "f*ck it" and sweep the situation under the rug, but truth is, I have changed. I've become more focused on what makes me happy instead of pleasing other people. This shift in my personality has now made it impossible for me to shrug off a berating - especially when I don't agree with what is being said. This was one of those times.

I felt grown up with my newfound unction to take charge and actively resolve conflict.

Score one for me.

2 comments:

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

its no bigggy if yawl folk
be the better man, i mean woman

SE said...

Good for you! After my father died on Christmas morning, we sold my family home, I had a stroke and had multiple hospitalizations and changed careers to destress my life, my husband (at the time) said he wanted a divorce - in part because I had "lost my spark."

Please, tell me who would not have?

I'm happily divorced and doing well having recovered from my string of tragedies.

It's great you were able to handle it so well.